i don't have tattoos okay the girl in theback drew these on my hand so i have like the power puff girls on my arm now which nowi’m genuinely considering to actually get as a tattoo on my arm forever. of course i get rejected right we allget rejected there's no way your ever gonna get toa point where you are master and you will never get rejected. you just have to understand that rejectionis genuinely part of what you’re going throughright now it's your idea is that your gonna just improve as much asyou possibly can as a person get as much
success as you possibly can but realize thatin any given room some people will like you and some people will not and that'sokay even in this room now don't fucking like me and i can't change that. right i can't change that there are some peoplein this room who will not like me no matter what i say today they won't like mebut i can't change that that really works on whati’m gonna talk about today. today i wantto talk about frame control and how important frame control is. before i get into that does anyone notknow what a frame is?
albright i’ll explainto you guys a frame is basically almost what i would call your identity. okay so it'syour world view it's your identity it's who youare and it's something that you should stick tocause if you change that your changing as aperson and you are adapting to different people's opinions of you. so i’ll give you an example. you areconvinced that the earth is flat you are
conviced that this world is just flat andeveryone around you is very very sure that it's round which is fine if you havea strong enough frame you can change everyone's mind in this room thatthe world is flat if you have a strong enough frame but if your frame is weak you willlet them laugh at you you will let them point at you and you let them push you downuntil you change your opinion. frame is something which you should stickto especially when your talking to girls causea girl will test how strong or how weak your frameis i’ll give you the most obvious example.
a lot ofguys they will go up go push the girl you willalways see huge difference in their energy when their talking to their friends. so they'll bewith heir friends they'll be leaning against the bar cool calm collected justchilling relaxed everything's cool. then they see a girl and their likeand their trying so hard to do whatever they can to impress this girl and theirdoing everything in their power to change their frame so when the girl sees them she'slike two minutes ago he was one way and now he's completely different way.
so the idea behind frame control is stickingto your true identity now if someone's opinion about you is different is someone call's youor example if someone doesn't think your a goodperson or if someone thinks your an amazing person both those views shouldn't affect whoyou are the biggest mistake guys make a girl speaks to them if she give's him positivecomplements he starts feeling better and better and better and better about himself. he's frame is changing right his frame isbecoming a different person he's like oh i feelso good about myself next girl says one bad thing boom frame crash he's back to zero he'sback to even minus five or something cause
he's just lost all that power. does that kindamake sense do you understand now what frame is everyone? anyone still not sure whatframe is? i’m a good sami. i’ll give you an example of how you shouldstick to frame control i’ll give you to personalexperience examples. i used to work at a nightclubused to work [inaudible] and now i’m more comfortable in night clubs than the averageperson
working night club is actually very good becauseyou get to experience that. now if there's troublein a nightclub and a security goes up to. let's say for example you start a fight inthe club. i love how your like ya ya cause i do startfights in the club and if ok so if security cameup to you you'd expect them to be like you nowout that's his frame right? if his frame wasanything different if his frame was like listen i’m sorry don't want to disturb you butyou know we kinda have to kick you out so you canunderstand that this guy's not showing his
frame cause your not gonna listen to that. even if some random guy even if some guywith long hair and his [inaudible] small as me came up to you and he's like dude thefuck out of this club now because my frame is so strong he'll be like. woah this guymust be someone i’ll leave so it's always about something called the battle of theframes and you want to make sure your frame is something you stick to no matterwhat. i’ll give you an example of something iused to do when i first started going into clubsin london obviously when you go to good
clubs i’m not sure how it works here becausei haven't seen that situation but when you go to good clubs you can't show up to aclub unless you’re on the guest list in londonin good clubs or if your holding two girls onyour arm and their like the most gorgeous in the world that's the only way you can getinto a good night club. otherwise there's no ways you’re gonna getin so what i do is cause i wanted to get into the night clubs and at that time i wasn’tdoing so well with girls and i wasn't on the list i would push through the crowd excuseme excuse me excuse me and then when the security comes in front of me he'll belike
who are you and i’ll be like move i workhere move and i’d push him away and i’d workthrough and i’d get into the night club. i've done this so many times i don't needto do it anymore because now i have a different way of getting into night clubs. try it ifyour frame is strong enough i’m serious if your frame is strong enough and yourable to push through the crowd and be like move i work here and your very confidentyour [inaudible] and body language your eye contact all those are confidentthat means your sticking to your frame usually if you'll be like i know the owner move he'llbe like okay okay.
cause they don't want to be the guy whofucked up and like did something wrong right if you're and important person and you'retrying to like get into the club then you will stickto that if your frame is strong they will acceptthat. you just need to have a strong enoughframe for someone to understand and accept it. the best example i can give you you shouldn'tbe like a football which is being kicked around between people if your frame is weak someonesaid their opinion about you and their kicking you around and your gonna go to the next personand your always gonna be trying to [inaudible]
where as if your the person who is like groundedstanding still and this is who you are and you present your self almost like you justlike do boom this is it this is who i am and there is nothing that i will change right? now here's where it gets tricky a lot of peoplesay oh that means i can't adapt no no you can adapt but you have to stay true to whoyour current self is who here does physics anyone does physics in this room? quitea few of you do you understand hat residence is for those of you who don't know whatresidence is i’ll give you like a very very dumbeddown version of what it is.
but it's basically when one item vibratesas a frequency of its neighboring item okay. so ifi’m shaking it at this frequency and this is myfrequency and something next to me or near me will also start vibrating at that frequency. the best example is when they have soldiersmarching on a bridge if you have an entire army marching on a bridge their motion ofbridge march march march march. is going to make the bridge vibrate at thatsame way if you have enough vibration
you can make that bridge collapse. that'swhy the bridges are built in a certain way so that doesn't happen. so i’m vibratingat a certain frequency and if people are around me and hey stay around andi stay at that strong frequency people will eventually vibrate at my frequency. that's why when people say whatever youfeel she feels that's very important in this caseif you feel nervous your sending out a nervous frequency and if you do that she'll sensethat
your nervous and she'll feel that and she'lleither one vibrate with your frequency which isnervous or she'll just say i can't do this and she'llwalk away does that make sense? if your vibrating in a strong confident frequencyor if your laughing or if your joking or even if your jokes don't make sense and their nothere type of jokes just because you don't changeyour frequency she will eventually vibrate at the same frequency as you. get thatdoes that make sense? i think it's very very important basicallywhatever
you project is what you attract in that senseif i talk to a girl and i’m very down okay ilet's say i had the worst day of my life and i've just come out of a breakup and if i’mtrying to fake a positive frequency that'll showand she'll realise that something is not right because i’m trying to display somethingbut she can feel that i’m giving out a differentvibe. your vibe is very important right and so it'salso very important to be honest about that a lot of guys when they say oh but i’mnervous it's better to tell the girl but listen i’m actually nervous to come and speakto you right now.
rather then try to hidebehind a fake confidence if you hide behind a fake confidence the girl is going to readthrough that shes gonna feel it and she'll be like. it's much more important to show what youractually offering where you stand where you come from and for her to realize okay thisguy is a little bit nervous that's fine i appreciatethat and i respect that but it's better to behonest about that then try to mask it with something else. what's very very importantis that you aren't seeking validation.
the main part about frame control is aboutnot seeking validation so i’ll give you anexample what most guys do when they go out and they say a joke their waiting forher laughter it's almost like and if she doesn'tlaugh that's gonna attack their frame when i say a joke i’m so comfortable with itthat i laugh about it because i think it's funnyi laugh at my own jokes because i think their funny but i’m not waiting for theirreaction she feels that confidence she feels that it's funny and because of that she'lllaugh she might not even understand it.
i've been in some countries where the girlsdon't understand basic english. and i’ll say a very detailed complicatedjoke and i’ll be laughing and then she starts laughing and i ask her you have no ideawhy your laughing you have no idea what i just said and she'll be like hahaha yes. and that goes to show very strongly if myframe is strong enough that's good if i went and i said the joke in very strongdetail and i went that's me losing my frame right? it's very very important foryou to stick to that and make sure that you have that very strong base line andthat's what i want to into next subject.
your base line whatever you do wheneveryour talking to a girl you have to have a certain baseline and that's somethingthat you can deviate a little bit from but you always have to come back to. so whenyour talking to a girl you have to always also make sure that you want to stand thatyou're not her friend your not her buddy you're not some guy who's gonna carry hershopping for her. you're baseline has to be this is a mansto woman exchange their i’m sexually interested in you and you have to almost have a sexualvibe of a baseline your baseline has to be avery sexual vibe.
now it doesn't mean youcan't joke of course you can joke but when you do come back to that sexual vibe right? we've had this and the best examplei can give you is last weekend with the strongest example i’ve ever seen with aboot camp student and it's funny how humor can be used as a defensemechanism most guys will try to be ‘ as funny a possible like please laughplease laugh please laugh because we say if she laughs that's it i’m not rejected. so were almost hiding behind the funnyguy persona because the funny guy doesn't get rejected.
i’m just the entertainerdon't worry about me i’m not gonna have sex with you i’m just the funny guy. andwe realize oh wow this is who i am and this is how i present myself ass and thegirl and the girl can never reject that. but you have to understand that the guywho does that is goes so far off his baseline that he's completely ruined his frame andhe's adapted a new frame where he's just the funny guy the entertainer the guyshe's gonna spend maybe five or ten minutes laughing at and then going to seethe next person it's very important to stick to that sexual baseline so think about itlike this you’re at your sexual baseline
yourtalking to her with intent your eye contact is strong your frame is good. you know what this is this is a battle offrames and right now your losing do you get that do you understand that? but this isjust a small example right like i’m sorry forpicking on you i’m just saying it's just like this. but the idea is right now my frame is so strongthat there's no way i’m changing this. audience member: it's because of the guysbehind me.
sami: whatever you get what i’m sayingthough right? if we stay like this long enoughone of us will break and you have to understand that when your talking to a girl one of youwill break most guys will panic and they leave just before she does so talk to a girl anda girl might be like. i’ll give you an example most girlsmake fun of my hair most girls make fun of myheight im not the tallest guy in this room right? by all means but what would someone elsedo let's say she said oh your to short.
mostguys there frame their identity of themselves isalways gonna be shattered by like oh okay andthen they'll walk away. the only thing that ido different and i mentioned this in previous videos is i just stand a little bit longerand i dont change my reaction whether she givesa me a good sign and a bad sign. i’m still gonna do exactly this just strongeye contact happy smile on my face don't care not affected by what she says and justkeep talking if you do that it shows your frameis stronger than that and she will lose.
andnow of course i’m not trying to say that this isthat beating them down with everything. i’m trying to say as long as your frameis stronger whether this is in business whetherthis is in sports or whether this is in meeting women your frame has to be stronger thanthe other person us so you can be more dominant and that situation does that makesense? again the problem that most guys will makeis that they'll be in a situation they'll see oneside of something bad and they'll just freak outand they'll go away so the idea is to stand
thereas long as you possibly can even if it's awkward and push through that awkwardness and againkeep your sexual vibe. your sexual vibe is straight you might laugha little bit but then you come back to yoursexual vibe you might push and joke around a littlebut then you come back to your sexual vibe don't laugh and keep laughing and keep laughingand you know lose your posture and lose your body language and she goes okay this guy isclearly not the sexual vibe guy. it's very important to stick to that baseline. alsoat some point i think were gonna do some
exercises i think the exercises are gonnahelp you understand this a little bit more theexercises are very very intense because it's somethingthat you will experience out in nightclubs or indaytime and it's something that's very very theseexercises that we are gonna give you are tools for therest of your life no matter where you're goingout whether it's daytime or night time or whetherit's in business or in sports these are exercises you can use forever.
what i do want to make sure about just aboutwhere everyone else is in the room who here is an absolute beginner [inaudible] absolutebeginner be honest this is just for me for myown reference. okay who here considersthemselves intermediate? so everyone whodidn't put up their hands are fucking pimps .alright who here whenever they go out and [inaudible] they'll accept a facebook closelike they'll [inaudible] okay who here has ever given out his number to a girl whatif she asks?
no no no i’m just asking if when you'reexchanging numbers she says oh you give me your numberi’m not gonna give you mine and you do that. so here's what i say they do thisbecause their frame isn't strong enough and they just want it to go well whenevera girl tells me let's exchange facebook i tellthem no don't have facebook number oh but nono no number oh but i don't usually get number. now the point of doing that is because i wantto show that my frame is strong enough and i’m not gonna take that as a no for me thefirst no is not a no for me the first five
ten no'splease be let's be strict about this don't besexual predators don't be fucking you know bad people i’m talking about generally jokingno's please no one do anything fucked up here alright okay? but seriously for me number and every timei’ve gotten that for me holding my frame thathas always worked out showing that you have a stronger frame will help the interactionso much more do it get her number. it's so much more powerful then if you sayoh let's exchange numbers so you'd be surprised about what having a strongerframe what it could do i’ll give you an
example doing back to an example oflast weekend in [inaudible] we are students who came in the boot camp andwe were sitting down and we were at a restaurant of the sunday at the end of theboot camp it was a bitter end and we were sitting down getting our food and doing thebreak down. the waitress comes and she was beautifulone of the most beautiful girls i’ve seen in my life really gorgeous girl she comes[inaudible] so he's like wow she's amazing but she's a waitress like i need toopen up my mind and i’m like okay cool. the only rule i would say in that situationis don't open her in front of your friends becauseif you open her up in front of your friends
andbe like oh give me your number. you look like your trying to look cool infront of your friends and she's gonna feel underpressure so there's no sense in song that so talk toher privately separately so she doesn't feel under pressure tell her you’re not tryingto get her into trouble at work tell her then askfor her number. so i [inaudible] they had a fewcommunications while we were sitting then he got up and he's like listen don't wantto get you into trouble at work i just think
your cute and would it be cool if we cango out for coffee sometime or for drinks and exchange numbers. now what she did was what she said waslike listen no i can't give out my number you give me your number and he's likeno no no i’m asking for your number let me play my part you play your part just yougive me your number she's just like no no no i can't do that. he went back and he sat down. but he stuck to his frame two minutes latershe came by with a hand written note of her number she put it on the ground puta rock on it tapped him and walked away?
pretty impressive the only thing that hedid different was that he stuck to his frame rather than him scribbling his nameoh here's my number and waiting and hoping that she'll text him back. someday and getting something outof it rather than that he stuck to his frame implemented to what i told himto do and that happened and it's very very interesting when you notice thisstuff happening in every different type of situation having a strong frame will alsohelp you avoid l.m.r. does anyone know what l.m.r. is? last minute resistance.
for those of you who don't know lastminute resistance is when everything’s going great with a girl you’re in the club yourmaking out everything’s great your both very into each other it's amazing and thenyou’re on your way back to your house and it's a little bit too far or something happensand she's like oh you know what actually i change my mind i don't want to do this. having a strong frame at that point isvery important. my friend used to havethe worst logistics in los angeles in l.a. he had the world’s worst logistics if youdon't have a car or can't afford a taxi you have zero chances of pulling in l.a.no chance right.
because the night bustakes an hour to even get to where you are and by the time you get home it'skinda crazy. he used to live with his mom and heused to have no money for taxi or no car so whenever he would leave theclub they've been spending all night together. they would walk up and stand at the busstop and she'd look at him and she's like you don't have a car and he's like nope. no were gonna take the bus and hewould stick to his frame right? and they'd be by his house and hewould say you have to be quiet my moms sleeping.
you live with your momand he's like ya grabs your hand and walks to his room if at any point this guyhesitated to [inaudible] able to close if at any point he goes i don't have a cari can't afford a taxi you know i’m broke butwe can take the night bus for sure the girls would have been like. and this wasn't once or twice this guydid this every single weekend every single weekend he went out he would always geta girl and would always go on the night bus and you'd just see the guy was the mostcool calm and collected guy i've ever seen where he'd just be sitting on the bus likethis
and the girl would be talking and he'd belike ya ya he'd always have a very strong frame. he when you believe something youwant to make sure that you can project that belief onto someone else without themever doubting it if your convinced that the night bus is the right way to take a girlhome then believe it to the bitter end same with if you believe that the earth is flatthat's fine but believe it to the bitter end. and make sure whoever you tell that storyto is someone who your gonna say it to issomeone your gonna say it to so strongly
that there's no way your gonna budgeand slight hesitation [inaudible] your story's invalid your argument's invalid andthere's no way your not gonna be able to get anything out of that and your sure you’vejust lost your frame i’m sure if someone herehad a strong enough frame and he tried to convince me about somethingi didn't believe in. if he had a strong enough frame i’deventually believe it and everyone in this room can believe something andthe same sense that you put up your frame and you were very convincing andyou put out your frame. you should keep to it and stick to yourstory no matter what happens zero
hesitation that is a strong frame andyou keep that and that kinda builds onto your identity and people can sayokay this guy he's always always always very strong about that this guy is veryprecise and very strict so it must be right. a lot of positions use this and a lot ofpeople believe in politicians because of their strong frame control they might notbe good for the job they might have very different beliefs it because theyhave [inaudbile] fucks up doesn’t matter you already have so much beliefyou've already brought in so much into their into their politicians system that nomatter what he does wrong oh no no doesn't matter he did one fuck up itdoesn't matter he's still the best right?
but think about that right like i mean rightnow i’m not how. audience member: i love [inaudible]sami [inaudible] i’m not trying to argue politics for me that's fine buthe's got a very strong frame right i’m not for him i’m not against him forme it's not my business cause it doesn't affect me but his frame isso strong that whatever he says he's very strong to stick to it. even if people ya but the wallis gonna cost to much money no no no wall no no no but what about no no nowall and he stuck to it cause of all
that media coverage he's gotten somuch exporsure just because he's not budging from his frame sticking to it thisis his belief system and no way he's gonna change that for anybody right. it's crazy what you can do when yourframe is that strong how much you can change someone's identitysomeone's belief [inaudible] very very interesting. alrightmost religious people very fanatic religious people are close minded but they havestrong frames and there is no way you could convince them otherwise if someoneis [inaudible] there is
no way you canbeat that frame cause there in that sense inthat argument there is no way you can win there frame is so strong that even if youcan prove to them that it's bullshit their stillconvinced whatever you're gonna do it's not gonna work. but that's what i’m talking about when itcomes to a point when your [inaudible] your in that kind of situation no matter[inaudible] no matter how wrong you might be even if your trying to convince herabout something which is bullshit and you know it's fucking bullshit an exercise wereabout to get into you want to stick to your
ground no no no i’m serious this is howit is i’m serious. and you want to stick to it as much as youcan if that's something you want to do and you want to make sure that your frame isstrong you have to almost be close minded. im not saying don't be adapatable if someonemakes a joke you can laugh with them you can joke remember the whole point aboutthis is to keep your strong baseline vibe that's very important and to stick to yourframe you can deviate a little bit you always have to come back to your frame. audience member: what if you are closeminded and you have a strong frame you
will not be open if you are close mindedand you have a strong frame you will not be able to learn anything because youhave a strong frame do you believe that [inaudible] sami: okay i get what you mean wellokay so at that point i don't mean be close minded to all new information andall that stuff of course. the whole pointof this is to learn new stuff you guys watch different videos sometimes you'llwatch a different video about this guys method of pick and your like no not mystyle and then you watch this guy’s method and your like not my style but i’ll tryit out. so your open minded that's fine as ahuman being you [inaudible] when
your talking to someone and your tryingto make sure your gonna be getting this person interest in you to find some sort ofinterest in you you have to make sure that your confidence your core is strongthat's where it leads to once you’re talking to a girl you can be as open minded asyou want to be but once you’re talking to agirl you have to have a sexual baseline and a strong frame because your tryingto show that you’re not weak. [inaudible] trying to text your frameno matter what if you’re going to come up to me in a club and you might have allthe good things to say and a girl will just be like you're wearing shorts in a clubshe might do that just to see how strong
your frame is if you just go she'll be likei knew it this guy wasn't as strong as his frame he isn't worth my time. as a girl she has the option of going homewith any guy she chooses as a girl they can come up to the night club basicallygo home with any guy they want. so whywould she waste her time on someone who isn't as confident or who has a strong enoughframe than she expects him to i guess the bad thing about being a guy is that youcan rock up to a nightclub and say all the bullshit you want to say and pretendyour someone else and that's enough right? so the girls job instead of just taking thefirst guy home she meets she'll test you
why shouldn’t she test you there's so manyother options. right now let's say there’s agirl here in the front and she saw all these guys right now why wouldn't she choosethe first one ya sure this guy might be he might present himself as an alpha guy hemight look like an alpha guy but she wants to test that why would she waste her timewith someone who doesn't have a strong frame. [inaudible] not worth her time so herjob is to filter out and that's fine she can filter out this guy this guy this guy andso she finds that guy i like his frame i likehis vibe that's interesting he's got a stronger vibe i made fun of him aboutsomething he doesn't care he didn't
move he didn’t budge if you're a guywho's frame is collapsible and you just get defeated by anything why should shewaste her time on you cause that makes sense. audience member: how do you work the muscle? sami how do you work the muscle? audience member: [inaudible]sami: okay so if i said this previously i think this is very important i’ll alwaysdo this so whenever i say oh [inaudible]you still get rejected the best thing i do which i don't think a lot of peopledo is i’ll stand in set and wait for my rejection and wait an extra sixth secondsi’ll wait through sixty seconds more of
discomfort and i’ll try to talk more ortry to do whatever else i can just to like flipit back around. but i make sure that i’m still notaffected i still have a smile on my face i’m still happy i’m still the sameperson cause nothing changed but i stand for sixty seconds longer if andwhat ended up happening most times [inaudible] they flip and theychange their mind they might hate you in the beginning and they might switchtheir mind and change it after a while. but if you are able to push yourself tolast for an extra sixty more seconds what does that mean?
this guys got agood frame he's not as weak as i thought he was even though i madefun of him he didn't flinch he stood there took it and carried on talking. maybe i should check it again and she'lltest it again and again. if you get a shittest that might be a good sign a girl giving you a shit test is basically mesaying are you good enough to handle me then she give you another one if she'sstill standing there and she's still giving you tests all that means is she’s testingto see how strong your identity is if you have a weak identity for the first signfor the first small detail when she
says and you feel a bit hurt she'llbe like ya i was right next. let's see who's next out there. questionsabout frame i’m an amazing sami. audience member: [inaudible]sami: you also have to be socially calibrated to see when some thingsare really a no and be like ok ok no alright sometimes also i might makejokes which are to extreme and the girl will be offended and i’ll still be laughingand [inaudible] that was offensive that wasn't cool and i’ll stand my groundand she'll say that was really not cool. at that point if your a fucking retard[inaudible] you have to understand
social ques and she says that wasn't coolthat was really fucked up at that point your just like ok alright my bad imade a mistake i thought it was funny i’m sorry i apologize i apologizei’m sorry i genuinely am sorry. causeyou're still a fucking human being. i don't mean this in the extreme ifthis is an extreme situation and you've really pushed to far take it back andunderstand that you've pushed to far [inaudible] there's also somethingcalled tension on tension off okay. i’ll give you a very good example aboutthis for example when i’m talking to a girl [inaudible] and i’m getting the number.
everyone says oh you have to stay eyecontact the whole way then take out your phone like a ninja point at her chest andgive her the phone without ever looking at your phone. that’s to much tensionif you stay with tension on the entire time the girl will be like whoa to much tension. ya sure you've got strong frame controlbut you have to understand the balance so what i’ll do i’ll give you an exampleof how i get the number i’ll look at the girli’ll be like you know what [inaudible] i have to go see my friends now you knowwhat we should do and i’ll look don and
i’ll be like here so this is the tensionoff and back on here give me your number and maybe we'll hang outsometime tension on tension off i might look around like around theroom give me your number tension on. this is just an example of tension ontension off same thing when your at a club what most guys do whentheir kissing a girl in the club they think that they have to stay supergluedto her face for the rest of the night and that's the only way they can gohome. i hate that i think that's thethat's basically tension on on on and so many times you'll see a girl in theclub and they'll be like leaning back
while making out with a guy and theguy is like to into it and the girl is like whoa whoa whoa . so that's to much tension you alsowant to be the person who understands frames but at the same time who isable to do tension on tension off cause if you're only tension on you'll scareaway the girl she'll be like fuck this fuck that make sense? audience member:[inaudible]sami: okay i’ll take a little step back cause in the beginning andi actually forgot to mention this when it comes to night clubs it's alittle bit different for now let's just
discuss night clubs okay. are youtalking about night clubs in general. i’m gonna break this down into two partsthe first part is if your down there's only two ways to get up either or first of allthe only way to really get up is to just accept what your current state is like. if your down be like you know what i’mdown i’m a little bit down today this and this happened it's okay just accept it justtry to absorb as much as you possibly can from the environment and just let itsink in you can actually stand in the night club and just let all the musicall the things and try to force a smile.
and try to really really just as muchas you can bring up your state just like that or you can do some funexercises with your friends [inaudible] to get out of that zone to get out of it. now if you’re really really down there'sno way back up then just accept it and when you approach if you talk to agirl actually say listen i’m actually not feeling myself today i’m a little bitdown remember what i said about keeping true to your identity keeping true betterthen to just put on a mask and say i’m feeling amazing and then inside beinglike why did she leave me. that's definitely someone you don't wantto be you should be true to your frame
no matter what right so if you're feelingdown try to see what you can do to push yourself [inaudible] stay atthat point accept it and just open in that zone in that state that you feelthe biggest mistake guys do when they go into a nightclub and i used todo a lot and their like i’m just gonna check out what this night club lookslike and they'll walk around you know i’m just gonna go to the bar just get adrink just walk around [inaudible] drank too much then they go pee andcome back out and be like okay. time to approach and in that wholetime what you've basically done is you've overwhelmed yourself without even realizingit because your just like hot girls hot girls
cool cool cool. and your visual perceptionis just like so much is happening the music is intense there's big guys andyour like that guy i so much bigger than me that guy’s got a v.i.p. tablewithout even realizing it it's something that happens in your subconscious subconsciouslyyour seeing all this stuff and if you're strength or wherever you feltyour confidence was up here by walking in a circle in the club like that it bringsit down down down down down and nowyour confidence is around here. so when you're approaching a girland your just like every time someone
gets to the club before you get to theclub gonna [inaudible] it's gonna be my night tonight is the night yesterdaythat was shit tonight is the night tonight isgonna be the fucking night they get in the club they make that circle they[inaudible] to much their mind sees too much to many girls to many big guysand their like. and they'll be like ok maybe i’ll approachone girl tonight tomorrow tomorrow is the night tomorrow night i’m going out tillthe bitter end tomorrow night you know myleg i can't do it but tomorrow night is when it's gonna happen all they kind of switchto is we'll find a spot in the club where
were happy and we'll just stand there alot of guys a lot of mistakes they do if their talking to their friend their not reallytalking to their friend their checking out girls in the night club. again to much perceptual shit ishappening their just being overwhelmed and then when they open so much overwhelmingwhat we do is we stay in our zone and were in our own party this is our partif you wanna go to the bathroom go but you’re coming back here if you’re gonnaget a drink go get a drink but this is our areaand were gonna assume that when we talk toour friends were in such a good energy a
good flow of energy that and were havingso much fun then if i see a girl i’ll bring her to the party. but i don't do hunting the biggest mistakeyou could do as a guy is look around and hunt that's fucking you up if yourtalking about oh you don't feel to good or if your down that'll make you even moredown when guys go into the club and their just looking around and their huntingthat's fucking creepy that's just like looking around and saying who should i take home tonight. and you you you're you're you're rememberwhat i said whatever you project is what you attract so the only thing you'llattract is a very creepy girl so the only
thing your showing off your just projectinga very creepy vibe by just scanning the room don't scan the room when you goto a club go with your friends and if a girl passesby grab her pull her in it's your party. get her into your party what happens whenyou out at the club oh are you guys having a party can i come [inaudible] andeveryone feels that your trying to steal their energy steal their vibe does that make sense? you’d bring people into your party you’renot trying to steal peoples parties by scanningthe room you are a thief that joins someone else’s party.
and that's it and hopefully someone lets youin and you're like yes i’m in this party and that's when your frames weakand your like please keep me here and you're doing whatever you canjust to keep yourself in that party and their just like ya no bro outget out of this party right? that's veryvery very important keep yourself as the person who's not on the hunt thisis your frame this is your area this is your zone this is your party your nottrying to steal someone else’s party. alright were gonna do some fun exercisethe first exercise were gonna do is were gonna switch off all the lights and weregonna play a game called were gonna
switch of all the lights and play a gamescalled who's in my mouth it's not my joke it's from dain cook if you watch comedy soi stole that joke. just so people at home on youtube don'tgo oh that's fuck you alright cause i got agood reaction i stole his joke ya. seriously before we start i’ll justshow you the exercise up front and this is a very interesting exercise onframe control this first one is about how amazing your day was and i’m just gonnahave a strong [inaudible] and your job is to have a stronger frame thenme and i’m gonna be a bitchy girl and
try to tell him that i’m not interestedand he has to keep talking no matter what justkeep my attention so how’s your day?
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